From Yorkshire to Perth.....

[Pom]

Hello everyone.... Ive been in Australia for 4 years this Sept and still feel like I just got here. I married an Aussie and we brought our 2 kids with us. I love where I am but cant get my head around taking my kids away from my parents, family and friends to the promise of a huge family (5 brothers and sisters, 18 cousins) with all the help in the world. I feel completely lost and just need to talk..... Sorry to ramble, this is coming straight from the heart, so forgive me if it doesnt make sense!

[shane&j]

It must feel like a great pull on the heart strings, but if like you say your still happy and so are your wife and kids, then how bad would your family feel if you up rooted from OZ came back and regreted it sooooooooooo much. Be glad that you are living a life that is right for you and dont let the guilt eat all the positives up.
Any way you beta get saving, that's one big bbq ur gonna need when they visit!
Me and Shane from Donny
All the best Jean.

[Quoll]

Originally Posted by Pom

Hello everyone.... Ive been in Australia for 4 years this Sept and still feel like I just got here. I married an Aussie and we brought our 2 kids with us. I love where I am but cant get my head around taking my kids away from my parents, family and friends to the promise of a huge family (5 brothers and sisters, 18 cousins) with all the help in the world. I feel completely lost and just need to talk..... Sorry to ramble, this is coming straight from the heart, so forgive me if it doesnt make sense!

No it makes perfect sense. It is something that you need to sort out with your (sorry, I dont know if you are m or f) OH. I married an Aussie as well and initially things were fine but somehow I just feel as if I dont belong - never have. I compare that with the feeling I get when I get off the plane at Heathrow and know where I belong. I dont know what the answer will be for you but I make do by regular trips home. My kids are now grown and gone with their own lives - one of them has emigrated back again even though he was, to all intents and purposes, an Aussie as he came here at 6 months.

It is hard to sort out just how much the "lifestyle" can compensate for that different life in which people play an integral part. Even though my DH has a much larger (and very pleasant) family than I do, it isnt MY family (which is a very small close knit one) and I feel like an outsider amongst his mob as well.

I hope you can work things out so that you feel better about being here!

[ali]

Hi and welcome - we're getting quite a little PIO community down in Bunbury now - i'm sure if you get in touch with the others they'll be very welcoming.

we've been lucky that neither of us have large families and we didn't spend alot of time with cousins - so it must be a bit heart wrenching to leave everyone and their support behind. I think you've described pretty normal emotions given that you've left so many people you love in the UK

This site is a great one for 'talking' getting support, advise or a listening ear.

Ali

[Pom]

Originally Posted by Quoll

No it makes perfect sense. It is something that you need to sort out with your (sorry, I dont know if you are m or f) OH. I married an Aussie as well and initially things were fine but somehow I just feel as if I dont belong - never have. I compare that with the feeling I get when I get off the plane at Heathrow and know where I belong. I dont know what the answer will be for you but I make do by regular trips home. My kids are now grown and gone with their own lives - one of them has emigrated back again even though he was, to all intents and purposes, an Aussie as he came here at 6 months.

It is hard to sort out just how much the "lifestyle" can compensate for that different life in which people play an integral part. Even though my DH has a much larger (and very pleasant) family than I do, it isnt MY family (which is a very small close knit one) and I feel like an outsider amongst his mob as well.

I hope you can work things out so that you feel better about being here!

Hi, thank you so much for that. I am the English wife lol...Its exactly how I feel too - i dont feel like I belong even though I am trying to so hard. Its the same for me when I step off the plane at Manchester - home..... My family in the UK are so close knit too and here, my hubby's family are huge - everyone talks about what everyone else is doing and how much its costing them etc etc and you cant even go for a pee without one of them ringing you up to ask if you have finished and was it worth it!!!!

Sometimes I panic that I am not settled - i know it would be dreadful to uproot the children again back to the UK, and my hubby away from his family and aussie life he knows so well - I feel like time is slipping away and its been 4 years nearly now and I panic that my kids need their grandparents etc etc. my hubby's parents are no help at all - they are grandparents to 15+ children and are not your typical grandparents. We see them once a month if that and they only live 10 mins drive away.

I know its something I will have to sort out myself, its just so good knowing that other people are going through the same or similar experience as me! Thanks so much! Theres me going on and on and on!

[Pom]

Originally Posted by ali

Hi and welcome - we're getting quite a little PIO community down in Bunbury now - i'm sure if you get in touch with the others they'll be very welcoming.

we've been lucky that neither of us have large families and we didn't spend alot of time with cousins - so it must be a bit heart wrenching to leave everyone and their support behind. I think you've described pretty normal emotions given that you've left so many people you love in the UK

This site is a great one for 'talking' getting support, advise or a listening ear.

Ali

Thank you Ali - yes I am coming across a few from Bunbury so that's good,

It's so good to have this site - i cant believe I have only just found it after all this time! YAY!

[toombark]

If your family are computer-minded, get on with a web cam. You can log on at late evening or night and the folks back in the UK can talk (and see) you in the morning... or visa-versa.