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Crikey what a good post!!

My story is a little bit of mix of everyone else. basically my mum and Dad split when I was 9. My relationship with my mum has always been amazing and the thought of leaving her really does break my heart. Over the years I have been her rock and I worry what she will do when I am not there.

My dad on the other hand is a prize git!!! He has spent my entire life pressurising me to do more and be more (even though he hasnt amounted to much himself). Anyway, no matter what I achieved it was never enough). he remarried and I can not stand his new wife, same she cant stand me. Andrew&Karen I can completely relate to your story. My dad has always out his 2 step children first, which I just dont get. Both are complete drop outs, my step siser got pregnant by a married man yet it was all exciting when her baby arrived. When my eldest was born there was never a fuss. In fact not once did my dad visit my eldest on his own my step sisters little boy was aways there so Charlotte never got a look in. Ayway 2 years ago my brothers girlfriend had a bit of a run in with my dad at which he stated that he only kept in touch with my brother to see his grandson. For me this was the last straw and I contacted him to say stay out of my life (admittedly I did this my tect as I knew he would emotionally blackmail me out of my decision). he never even responded to my text and 2 years on I havent heard from him. I have since had another little girl and not even a card to acknowledge her. I know you may be thinking well...thats what you wanted. It si but I thought he would have put up some kind of fight..I'm still waiting. My Grandma (dads mum) was gutted about the situation but I think even she realises he is a git.
So here I am 2 years later with my amazing little family unit of 4 and I just want the best for my family. I will be sad to go, and even now a part of my wonders if my dad will even try to contact me before I leave the country forever. Deep down I know he wont and I cant really explain why a part of me wants him to. I guess its cause hes my dad.

I am so sorry I really have bleated on now!!!! Anyway, I look forward to a fresh start and no baggage with our new life in Oz.

Take care all of you

Toni