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ClaireW,
We had the same problem with my mum. We decided though to tell her in advance. It has taken her nearly 5 months to calm down but she is now starting to shopw interest and ask practical questions.

I had to chuckle about th epictures of spiders, my mum had been trawling the papers and showing us all the shark attach stories when we visited each week.

As painful as it is, we have the view that our parents done the best for us when we were kids, we now want to do the same for our kids. That future is in Australia now not the UK.

Good luck