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koala12 · 25-09-2007, 09:25 PM

Hi Emmy
I understand your predicament but surely your husband would have told you by now if he was REALLY against the idea? Perhaps he is quite happy to go along with the idea but, like some men, doesn't go overboard with the enthusiasm and he probably loves you so much he thinks that it's something you really want to do so he's happy to go along for the ride with you!
There is always an element of guilt involved in such a huge change of life, mine being that I have elderly parents in England plus my youngest daughter still there (who can't make up her mind about moving here!). It is a better way of life here and it's great to make a fresh start but I think for a lot of people there is always 'somthing' that hangs over them.
If it's really worrying you, can't you sit down with your husband and talk to him about it all and see if he'll tell you exactly how he feels about it all - I know some men aren't the easiest at sharing their feelings, etc but if you tell him that it's worrying you that he might only be going along with the idea for you then perhaps he'll open up?
Good luck and keep us posted on how things go

Karen

I'm the one who's been instrumental in pushing us to go to Aus, my hubby is cool about it all and not bothered either way so he says. He's a builder, a really good do any job type of builder, master plasterer and bricklayer, and his work is his life, and his hobby is work. He's been S/E for 20years now and thanks to his hard work we are comfortably off and own our own small holding. I want a new start a new life with some sunshine and a different environment and outlook to the stale feeling I have here now in England. Tony my O/H is OK with the idea, but I just know I'm the one dragging him away from all that he loves here in England, his mates, his work mates some have been with him since school days. His family, his rugby, all the things he loves, even our friends at the local part of which Tony built in his spare time for them, not charging a penny for his labour.

I feel very guilty all of a sudden, and him bless him hasn't complained once he just gets on with his day. It's just that sometimes silence says more than any bust up or blast could ever say. I know in his heart he's only doing this for me, and it's starting to hurt me now to think I'm putting him through this. I'm sure all you guys who read this are thinking he's a whimp, (flank forwards never are) and so girls I would hope some of you out there can offer some advice on what I should do and how I should approach this.
Thanks all.
Emmy Green

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koala12 Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Sydney, NSW Posts: 607 Blog Entries: 2 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Hi Emmy I understand your predicament but surely your husband would have told you by now if he was REALLY against the idea? Perhaps he is quite happy to go along with the idea but, like some men, doesn't go overboard with the enthusiasm and he probably loves you so much he thinks that it's something you really want to do so he's happy to go along for the ride with you! There is always an element of guilt involved in such a huge change of life, mine being that I have elderly parents in England plus my youngest daughter still there (who can't make up her mind about moving here!). It is a better way of life here and it's great to make a fresh start but I think for a lot of people there is always 'somthing' that hangs over them. If it's really worrying you, can't you sit down with your husband and talk to him about it all and see if he'll tell you exactly how he feels about it all - I know some men aren't the easiest at sharing their feelings, etc but if you tell him that it's worrying you that he might only be going along with the idea for you then perhaps he'll open up? Good luck and keep us posted on how things go Karen I'm the one who's been instrumental in pushing us to go to Aus, my hubby is cool about it all and not bothered either way so he says. He's a builder, a really good do any job type of builder, master plasterer and bricklayer, and his work is his life, and his hobby is work. He's been S/E for 20years now and thanks to his hard work we are comfortably off and own our own small holding. I want a new start a new life with some sunshine and a different environment and outlook to the stale feeling I have here now in England. Tony my O/H is OK with the idea, but I just know I'm the one dragging him away from all that he loves here in England, his mates, his work mates some have been with him since school days. His family, his rugby, all the things he loves, even our friends at the local part of which Tony built in his spare time for them, not charging a penny for his labour. I feel very guilty all of a sudden, and him bless him hasn't complained once he just gets on with his day. It's just that sometimes silence says more than any bust up or blast could ever say. I know in his heart he's only doing this for me, and it's starting to hurt me now to think I'm putting him through this. I'm sure all you guys who read this are thinking he's a whimp, (flank forwards never are) and so girls I would hope some of you out there can offer some advice on what I should do and how I should approach this. Thanks all. Emmy Green home[/quote]