[Helaine]

i know how you feel, the reason that we are going to oz is that my little brother lives out there and after speaking to him and how fantastic his life is,we have decided to take our 2 kids and give them a better quality of life, so I planted the seed and the rest they say is history, however i have had guitly feelings as he will be leaving his family and his daughter, my mum is in good health so she can come out on holiday BUT he is a grown up and if he didnt want to go he would say.....and i have asked and asked if he wants to start a new life and given very opportunity for him to say no,so i guess what i'm saying is that you need to speak to him just to make sure he is 100% ok with going