[KazzE]

Hi,

I am sure it is illegal to kidnap them, but I told mine I will be drugging them and putting them on the plane
if you have a look through old posts, maybe search 'teens' you will find that most of us with teens have been through some sort of stress at one time or another.

I have a boy of 22 and a girl of 18.

Son has finished uni and is working temp until he decideds what he is going to do, his options depending on when we get visas are to do his masters here which would start in Feb, sign up to do a masters in Melbourne, that is looking less of an option as he needs to sign up soon and we do not have our visas arrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggggggggggggh or he could start full time work, which is not an option at the moment as he needs to be dependant on us to come on our visa.

Daughter finished college and had a place at uni which we have deferred until next year as my plan is that she does her degree in Melboune, she however does not want to research her course options or look at what it could be like there because she does not want to go to Australia, everyone is stupid, the weather is stupid, it's too American! etc etc
I have found out that Melbourne uni is 22 in the world legue tables and thier arts dept is 7th higher than any of the uni's she wanted to go to here.

She will be booking on to her course this week - a bumpy week ahead for me I think

It is very hard because I can see her point to a certain degree, very hard to leave friends behind at this age, they are all going off to thier various unis this week end and she will not see most of them until xmas.

but I am sure that this will be a good move for all of us, I know she will get a good degree that will enable her to get a good job.
She has asked why she can't stay here to do her degree - I do not see this as a viable option, she is quite independant but she still wants me to go with her for doc or dentist appointments, ring to sort out her student loan and uni stuff so I cannot see her coping on her own for long and it is such a long way, she would be totally on her own and would have to deal with everything on her own, I have not been too explicit but there are all sorts of stories, flat shares going wrong, accidents happening, finding the course hard, money not coming through etc etc she would probably not be able to talk to us when she needed too, we cannot afford to support her here while we are over there.

We have explained that this is it for us we have to go now, I don't want to wait until she finishes uni, another 3 years, I would be nearly 48 it would be that much harder to find a job etc


probably not much help, but at least you know you are not on your own we all have to find a way, good luck